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Caregiver's Night Out

The Classic to host "Understanding Power of Attorney" event

Preparing for Life with Early-Onset Alzheimer's Disease

Developing a Circle of Care Gives You Superpowers

A Purrfect Addition to the Caregiving Journey

Resolutions of a Caregiver

Caregiving: It's a Marathon Not a Sprint

Role of the Responsible Caregiver

Is it a Going Problem?

Journaling Helps Caregivers Remember the Joy

Memories Sustain Us and Live On

Staying Independent is a Gift

Making Holidays Merry for those with Memory Loss

Caregiver - You're Somebody's Hero

Expressions in Caregiving

Forgetting is Not Always a Sign of Dementia

Keeping Sibling Relations Strong

Entering the Wandering World

Alzheimer's the Long Goodbye

Capturing the Untold Story

How to Take the Keys?

How Do I Tell Them It's Dementia?

Choose to Live a Positive Life

Modifications Make Summer's Activities Memorable

Are You a Caregiver?

Power of Touch in Memory Loss

Tisket a Tasket Make a Memory Basket

Reuniting with Home

Upcoming Events

16th Annual Caregiver Resource Fair, Dinner, and Town Hall Meeting  |  November 12, 2018

Save the Date!

The 16th Annual Caregiver Resource Fair, Dinner and Town Hall Meeting is November 12, 2018.

The event will be held at the Florian Gardens, 2340 Lorch Ave, Eau Claire.

Please pre-register by November 5, 2018 by calling the Aging & Disability Resource Center at (715) 839-4735 or online at www.adrcevents.org.

Download the flyer here

 

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V is for Validation

Venting all of us do it, whether we are an active caregiver or not, venting is something natural to everyone. Therapists will tell you that venting is a form of processing or of taking stock of what is truly happening and how it makes us feel.

Venting also is a way of letting others in to a situation. However, it is in how they react to us that allows the venting to properly work or efficiently fail.

Usually the reason why venting fails is because the listener is not truly focusing on what is being said. Instead, they are searching for an answer, thinking of a reply or the magic thing that will make you feel better. When in reality all you need is for them to quietly listen and validate how you are feeling.

Because this is a natural process, it is normal that those we care for also seek to vent and be validated. If have a spouse who goes on-and-on about having to take multiple medications or hear someone with memory loss beg to go home, is this complaining or venting? Perhaps if we took the time to validate their feelings they too would feel better.

A successful validation process happens when you use the following techniques:

Centering - means to put aside your own feelings, shut off all of the noise inside and surrounding you, and just listen.

Observing - focus solely on the person, while watching their body language and verbal cues. Are they fidgeting or calm, lips tight or smiling, hands tensed or flaccid etc...?

Distancing - using your observation skills determine the appropriate amount of space you need to have with the person (i.e. arms length, hugging, across the room etc…)

Empathizing - changing your body/emotions to reflect theirs. Once you make a match, you can slowly morph your demeanor and lead them into a more calm relaxed state.

Verbal/Nonverbal Techniques - using a clear, warm tone ask open-ended questions, rephrase answers, ask extreme or opposite questions, reminisce, mirror their body language, maintain deep eye contact and provide reassuring touch.

Ending Positively - usually the conversation will come to a natural end how there may be a time where you need to directly disengage. Whatever happens it is at this time that you should take time to validate the person; how they were feeling and that you were glad to be there for them. It also is a great opportunity to tell them honestly how you feel about them in a positive manner, thereby boosting their self-worth.

By using the techniques, we can help those we care for feel validated by recognizing that what they say or feel has meaning and is of value. In the end, you will find that it will naturally lead to your own personal validation.