16th Annual Caregiver Resource Fair, Dinner, and Town Hall Meeting | November 12, 2018
Save the Date!
The 16th Annual Caregiver Resource Fair, Dinner and Town Hall Meeting is November 12, 2018.
The event will be held at the Florian Gardens, 2340 Lorch Ave, Eau Claire.
Please pre-register by November 5, 2018 by calling the Aging & Disability Resource Center at (715) 839-4735 or online at www.adrcevents.org.
Download the flyer here
Role of the Responsible Caregiver
As a caregiver it is easy to get sucked into thinking that you are the only one responsible for your loved ones care. That ultimately you are in the battle alone and must provide everything from intermittent assistance to daily hands on care.
This thought process is very common among caregivers and can be the result of family dynamics such as being the only child or having siblings who are not overly helpful. It can also be because you are the spouse and have taken vows to care of your significant other "through sickness and in health."
Whatever the reason caregivers ultimately determine that they are an army of one, it is important to realize that being a lone soldier does not always have to happen. In many instances, especially when it comes to families, communication is key.
Yes, brother may not feel comfortable staying with Mom for a weekend simply because he does not want to deal with incontinence issues, but perhaps he would be willing to mow the lawn or take care of Mom's finances.
Let's face it not everyone is cut out to be a caregiver, at least not a compassionate and patient one. Therefore, it is important that caregivers recognize ways for those around them to comfortably help shoulder some of the responsibilities. As result, it will help lessen the caregiving load.
It is also important as caregivers that we realize that being responsible for our loved one's care does not always take on the form of actually doing the care ourselves. Ultimately, being responsible means finding appropriate ways that our loved can have their needs met safely, while providing them with the highest quality of life.
Often spouses have a tough time letting this responsibility go, as they feel it relates directly to that sacred wedding vow. However, it is imperative that one realizes that those vows did not dictate or define "care." This vow simply states that one would continue to love and be a partner to their spouse regardless of their health.
It does not say that they must give medications, assist with toileting or bathing or lift them from a bed to wheelchair. When one responsibly evaluates what care their loved one needs and who would be the best trained to provide that care, only then are they truly fulfilling that vow and taking the responsible role of caregiving.
In reality, responsible caregiving does not always result in the picture of care we "think or feel" we should provide nor is it done alone. The truth is that the only true responsibility of a caregiver is to determine what is best for their loved one and make decisions that will allow their loved one to receive the care they deserve, while living the highest quality of life possible. A responsible role that caring makes possible.